One of the most common questions asked by newcomers to the poly world is some variation of, "How do I find other polys?" The most common answer to this question is, "Attend local poly social events. Can't find a local social event? Create one!"
That's what I decided to do. In
my corner of the world, the poly scene exists but it is overlooked and
underdeveloped. For the last six months, I have been working to change
that. I have created a poly group with the goal of making the community
more visible and to help what is already here to grow. For the last two
months, I have worked with fellow polys to help organize a meet and
greet that has been very successful (the most attended poly event in
the area, actually) with requests for more. If all goes well, it will
become a monthly event.
I am also trying to organize a monthly
poly discussion group. I'm hoping to create an interactive and diverse
dialogue where polys can come and ask questions as well as share advice
and other experiences. Hopefully, it will be very helpful to have real
life examples of the many different ways others define and structure
their poly and deal with personal or relationship issues. The community
could be it's own resource. There seems to be a wide appeal and serious
interest in this idea from my fellow polys. A few sex-positive venues
have already offered their space for our events, too!
It's crazy. I've never so much as planned a party at my house before, now I'm creating and organizing community events.